Joy Journey Day 6: Serve and Be Served

Service 2

John 13

13 Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am.
14 If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet.
15 For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.
16 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him.
17 If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them.

“Only a life lived in the service of others is worth living.” Albert Einstein

I love the story of Jesus washing the feet of His disciples.  I love that though He was our Lord and Savior He did not see himself above this menial task as He did it with love.  Knowing the culture and background helps me appreciate this story even more.  The streets of Jerusalem were not paved as ours are.  They were dirt and animals traveled on them as much as the people.  I am sure that the streets were covered in dung and the shoes of the time were sandals.  So one of the jobs given to the servant of the house was to remove the shoes and wash the feet of visitors as they came in.  He was washing off the dirt and the manure picked up as the visitor had traveled the streets.  So Jesus was not watching sweaty feet that had come out of socks, he was literally washing off the dirt, grime and crap from the world His disciples lived in.  It is no wonder humble Peter did not want His master to do this!  But Christ taught two important lessons this day.  He taught the disciples, and us, that no one is too good to serve, that if He was willing to humble Himself to care for them, then they ought to do the same thing for those in their sphere of influence.  Equally as important, He taught us through Peter that another important part  following Him is accepting service.  None of us is beyond needing to be served.

What is service?  It is a the way we can show people that they matter. Service is love in action. It is the way we show our love for others as well as our love and gratitude to God.  It is the pure love of Christ or charity.  It is the way we become a window to God’s love.

“Through the lens of pure love, we see immortal beings of infinite potential and worth and beloved sons and daughters of Almighty God.  Once we see through that lens, we cannot discount, disregard or discriminate against anyone.” Dieter Uchtdorf

What is the benefit of doing service?  It widens our lens, gives us a broader perspective and expands our vision.  It help us appreciate the blessings we have and tends to shrink our problems because they are no longer our focus.  It helps us get outside or ourselves, transforming us into a more giving less selfish person.  It helps us feel connected with the world around us and with the people we serve.  It gives our lives a deeper purpose and more meaning.  Service helps us discover and develop our spiritual gifts.  It is a great way to feel God’s presence and love in our lives both for those we serve and for ourselves.  It decreases stress and anxiety related health problems.  Service releases a hormone called oxytocin which helps us feel relaxed an happy.  Through all these benefits, it is easy to see how service increases the level of joy in our lives.

What are some ways you can serve?  There are many different opportunities to serve.  You can help organize or carry out an event.  You can visit someone who is lonely.  You can drive someone to the grocery store or a doctor’s appointment when they cannot do this for themselves.  You can help with yardwork or clean someone’s house.  You can watch someone’s kids while they do something they need to do or to give them a much needed break.  You can donate food or clothes, or you can pay it forward.

Mother Theresa said, “Not all of us can do great things.  But we can do small things with great love.”  For a long time I felt very guilty like I was not contributing much because I was not serving in big ways.  Then one day as I was reading in the Gospels I noticed the way Jesus served.  He did not organize big helpful events or volunteer at community functions, He simply went about His day noticing needs one by one and meeting them.  Suddenly I realized I was doing a lot of service for my family, friends, and others in my sphere of influence and I realized that I could do even better with this awareness.  I simply needed to slow down a little and recognize opportunities placed before me during my day.  I could serve like Jesus, one person at a time, one need at a time.  I realized that taking the time to listen to a child or a friend who needed a shoulder to cry on was a way of service.  I realized sharing my witness of Christ and hope through His teachings was another way to serve.  I realized that taking the time to get to know someone so that they could be open about their needs was a way to serve.  Even writing a note or a text to let someone know they are of value and appreciated is a way to serve.  Service is all about recognizing needs and meeting them.  For my mind and heart, this is a much more doable way to serve and I no longer feel guilty.  I feel blessed as I notice ways that people in my life can be lifted and I have the opportunity to help.  I love much and do what I can do.

Accepting help is a much harder form of service for many of us.  When we accept help we are serving the person serving us because we are allowing them to fulfill a commandment from God.  We are being vulnerable enough to tell them that we are all in this together.  I love this quote from Spencer Kimball, “God does notice us, and he watches over us.  But it is usually through another person that He meets our needs.”  How often do we tie God’s hands because we are too proud or embarrassed to ask for help or even to allow it.  We all are lacking.  We all fall short!  God sees all our vulnerabilities and our weaknesses and He wants to send us help, He wants to lift our burdens, but we must allow it to happen.  We must show our trust in Him by allowing others to lift the burdens in our lives.

Soul Searching Question: How will you either serve or accept service today?

Service 1

Song:

Set the World on Fire by Britt Nicole

Face to face with the Author:

Day 4: One by One

Mark 5:

1 And they came over unto the other side of the sea, into the country of the Gadarenes.
2 And when he was come out of the ship, immediately there met him out of the tombs a man with an unclean spirit,
3 Who had his dwelling among the tombs; and no man could bind him, no, not with chains:
4 Because that he had been often bound with fetters and chains, and the chains had been plucked asunder by him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man tame him.
5 And always, night and day, he was in the mountains, and in the tombs, crying, and cutting himself with stones.
6 But when he saw Jesus afar off, he ran and worshipped him,
7 And cried with a loud voice, and said, What have I to do with thee, Jesus, thou Son of the most high God? I adjure thee by God, that thou torment me not.
8 For he said unto him, Come out of the man, thou unclean spirit.
9 And he asked him, What is thy name? And he answered, saying, My name is Legion: for we are many.
10 And he besought him much that he would not send them away out of the country.
11 Now there was there nigh unto the mountains a great herd of swine feeding.
12 And all the devils besought him, saying, Send us into the swine, that we may enter into them.
13 And forthwith Jesus gave them leave. And the unclean spirits went out, and entered into the swine: and the herd ran violently down a steep place into the sea, (they were about two thousand;) and were choked in the sea.
14 And they that fed the swine fled, and told it in the city, and in the country. And they went out to see what it was that was done.
15 And they come to Jesus, and see him that was possessed with the devil, and had the legion, sitting, and clothed, and in his right mind: and they were afraid.
16 And they that saw it told them how it befell to him that was possessed with the devil, and also concerning the swine.
17 And they began to pray him to depart out of their coasts.
18 And when he was come into the ship, he that had been possessed with the devil prayed him that he might be with him.
19 Howbeit Jesus suffered him not, but saith unto him, Go home to thy friends, and tell them how great things the Lord hath done for thee, and hath had compassion on thee.
20 And he departed, and began to publish in Decapolis how great things Jesus had done for him: and all men did marvel.
21 And when Jesus was passed over again by ship unto the other side, much people gathered unto him: and he was nigh unto the sea.
22 And, behold, there cometh one of the rulers of the synagogue, Jairus by name; and when he saw him, he fell at his feet,
23 And besought him greatly, saying, My little daughter lieth at the point of death: I pray thee, come and lay thy hands on her, that she may be healed; and she shall live.
24 And Jesus went with him; and much people followed him, and thronged him.
25 And a certain woman, which had an issue of blood twelve years,
26 And had suffered many things of many physicians, and had spent all that she had, and was nothing bettered, but rather grew worse,
27 When she had heard of Jesus, came in the press behind, and touched his garment.
28 For she said, If I may touch but his clothes, I shall be whole.
29 And straightway the fountain of her blood was dried up; and she felt in her body that she was healed of that plague.
30 And Jesus, immediately knowing in himself that virtue had gone out of him, turned him about in the press, and said, Who touched my clothes?
31 And his disciples said unto him, Thou seest the multitude thronging thee, and sayest thou, Who touched me?
32 And he looked round about to see her that had done this thing.
33 But the woman fearing and trembling, knowing what was done in her, came and fell down before him, and told him all the truth.
34 And he said unto her, Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague.
35 While he yet spake, there came from the ruler of the synagogue’s house certain which said, Thy daughter is dead: why troublest thou the Master any further?
36 As soon as Jesus heard the word that was spoken, he saith unto the ruler of the synagogue, Be not afraid, only believe.
37 And he suffered no man to follow him, save Peter, and James, and John the brother of James.
38 And he cometh to the house of the ruler of the synagogue, and seeth the tumult, and them that wept and wailed greatly.
39 And when he was come in, he saith unto them, Why make ye this ado, and weep? the damsel is not dead, but sleepeth.
40 And they laughed him to scorn. But when he had put them all out, he taketh the father and the mother of the damsel, and them that were with him, and entereth in where the damsel was lying.

41 And he took the damsel by the hand, and said unto her, Talitha cumi; which is, being interpreted, Damsel, I say unto thee, arise.
42 And straightway the damsel arose, and walked; for she was of the age of twelve years. And they were astonished with a great astonishment.
43 And he charged them straitly that no man should know it; and commanded that something should be given her to eat.

There are three amazing stories here, but rather than focus on the details of each of them today I just want to share a recent insight that I had using this chapter as a perfect example. For so long when I thought about serving I felt guilty because I have not been involved in very many big service projects. I’ve never flown to another country to serve the poor and the hungry. I’ve never spent weeks on end helping in a community that’s been wiped out by a natural disaster. This has always weighed on me as a feeling of not doing enough to love and serve others. Then about a year ago, I was reading this chapter (or one like it) and suddenly it dawned on me that as wonderful as being involved in projects like this are, especially if you have felt a prompting to be involved, serving like the Savior does not require me to do these huge acts. At once I saw very clearly that the Savior served (and serves) one by one. He spent His days ministering to individuals He found along His way. He saw their hurting and He helped them. Most often His miracles were preformed on His way to somewhere else. He served as He went. He saw a need and He filled it. Instantly serving well, serving as the Savior does no longer felt daunting or unattainable. I wondered how many opportunities I have had to give meaningful service that I have swept aside because I was too focused on the next place I was going or the projects I was trying to complete. But with new understanding changes for the better can be made.

Truly understanding that the little things we do to make another’s life easier are the essence of Christ-like service has really been a game changer for me. It has created a desire in me to be more aware of those opportunities throughout the day. It has made me want to slow down a little and pay more attention to the whispers that come showing me the needs around me. It has helped me feel validated in the little things I do to show love to those around me. Now I feel great when I take an hour to listen to a friend vent, or go out of my way to write a note and create a special treat for one of my kids who is having a hard week, or take the afternoon and spend some quality time with my husband. I have begun to see the time I invest in facilitating my scripture study or writing for my blog as opportunities to serve as I share God’s word and love with those who read my testimony. I never really saw these as service before, and as good as it is to be part of big organized service projects, better understanding Christ’s way of ministering helps me to recognize that maybe service in the little things along our daily path are just as important, if not more so.

Serving in the Savior’s way means keeping our eyes and our hearts open to see a need and fill it, just like He did.

Song:

Dream Small

Talk:

Ministering as the Savior Does

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2018/04/ministering-as-the-savior-does?lang=eng

Soul Searching Question: How can you become more mindful to be a better minister to those around you one by one?

Courage to Be Vulnerable

I have thought a lot about ministering in the Savior’s way over the last year and one of the things that struck me as very relevant is that being vulnerable enough to allow others to serve us is just as important as reaching out to serve those around us.

I think that in a general sense, we are all great at serving, especially when we are specifically asked to. However, I know that many of us struggle with being vulnerable enough to actually accept service from others, even when we need it.

There is a quote by Rick Warren, in his book The Purpose Driven Life, that says, “Vulnerability is an endearing quality. We are drawn to humble people. Pretentiousness repels but authenticity attracts.”

Our brokenness is part of our perfect journey and God will ask us to share our vulnerabilities to bless the lives of others! How will you consecrate your suffering to God’s purposes?

Not My Feet Only, but Also My Hands and My Head

Ponder these verses from

John 13:

3 Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he was come from God, and went to God;
4 He riseth from supper, and laid aside his garments; and took a towel, and girded himself.
5 After that he poureth water into a basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet, and to wipe them with the towel wherewith he was girded.
6 Then cometh he to Simon Peter: and Peter saith unto him, Lord, dost thou wash my feet?
7 Jesus answered and said unto him, What I do thou knowest not now; but thou shalt know hereafter.
8 Peter saith unto him, Thou shalt never wash my feet. Jesus answered him, If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with me.
9 Simon Peter saith unto him, Lord, not my feet only, but also my hands and my head.

What do these verses teach about our need to be vulnerable and allow others to serve us?