Joy Journey Day 6: Serve and Be Served

Service 2

John 13

13 Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am.
14 If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet.
15 For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.
16 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him.
17 If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them.

“Only a life lived in the service of others is worth living.” Albert Einstein

I love the story of Jesus washing the feet of His disciples.  I love that though He was our Lord and Savior He did not see himself above this menial task as He did it with love.  Knowing the culture and background helps me appreciate this story even more.  The streets of Jerusalem were not paved as ours are.  They were dirt and animals traveled on them as much as the people.  I am sure that the streets were covered in dung and the shoes of the time were sandals.  So one of the jobs given to the servant of the house was to remove the shoes and wash the feet of visitors as they came in.  He was washing off the dirt and the manure picked up as the visitor had traveled the streets.  So Jesus was not watching sweaty feet that had come out of socks, he was literally washing off the dirt, grime and crap from the world His disciples lived in.  It is no wonder humble Peter did not want His master to do this!  But Christ taught two important lessons this day.  He taught the disciples, and us, that no one is too good to serve, that if He was willing to humble Himself to care for them, then they ought to do the same thing for those in their sphere of influence.  Equally as important, He taught us through Peter that another important part  following Him is accepting service.  None of us is beyond needing to be served.

What is service?  It is a the way we can show people that they matter. Service is love in action. It is the way we show our love for others as well as our love and gratitude to God.  It is the pure love of Christ or charity.  It is the way we become a window to God’s love.

“Through the lens of pure love, we see immortal beings of infinite potential and worth and beloved sons and daughters of Almighty God.  Once we see through that lens, we cannot discount, disregard or discriminate against anyone.” Dieter Uchtdorf

What is the benefit of doing service?  It widens our lens, gives us a broader perspective and expands our vision.  It help us appreciate the blessings we have and tends to shrink our problems because they are no longer our focus.  It helps us get outside or ourselves, transforming us into a more giving less selfish person.  It helps us feel connected with the world around us and with the people we serve.  It gives our lives a deeper purpose and more meaning.  Service helps us discover and develop our spiritual gifts.  It is a great way to feel God’s presence and love in our lives both for those we serve and for ourselves.  It decreases stress and anxiety related health problems.  Service releases a hormone called oxytocin which helps us feel relaxed an happy.  Through all these benefits, it is easy to see how service increases the level of joy in our lives.

What are some ways you can serve?  There are many different opportunities to serve.  You can help organize or carry out an event.  You can visit someone who is lonely.  You can drive someone to the grocery store or a doctor’s appointment when they cannot do this for themselves.  You can help with yardwork or clean someone’s house.  You can watch someone’s kids while they do something they need to do or to give them a much needed break.  You can donate food or clothes, or you can pay it forward.

Mother Theresa said, “Not all of us can do great things.  But we can do small things with great love.”  For a long time I felt very guilty like I was not contributing much because I was not serving in big ways.  Then one day as I was reading in the Gospels I noticed the way Jesus served.  He did not organize big helpful events or volunteer at community functions, He simply went about His day noticing needs one by one and meeting them.  Suddenly I realized I was doing a lot of service for my family, friends, and others in my sphere of influence and I realized that I could do even better with this awareness.  I simply needed to slow down a little and recognize opportunities placed before me during my day.  I could serve like Jesus, one person at a time, one need at a time.  I realized that taking the time to listen to a child or a friend who needed a shoulder to cry on was a way of service.  I realized sharing my witness of Christ and hope through His teachings was another way to serve.  I realized that taking the time to get to know someone so that they could be open about their needs was a way to serve.  Even writing a note or a text to let someone know they are of value and appreciated is a way to serve.  Service is all about recognizing needs and meeting them.  For my mind and heart, this is a much more doable way to serve and I no longer feel guilty.  I feel blessed as I notice ways that people in my life can be lifted and I have the opportunity to help.  I love much and do what I can do.

Accepting help is a much harder form of service for many of us.  When we accept help we are serving the person serving us because we are allowing them to fulfill a commandment from God.  We are being vulnerable enough to tell them that we are all in this together.  I love this quote from Spencer Kimball, “God does notice us, and he watches over us.  But it is usually through another person that He meets our needs.”  How often do we tie God’s hands because we are too proud or embarrassed to ask for help or even to allow it.  We all are lacking.  We all fall short!  God sees all our vulnerabilities and our weaknesses and He wants to send us help, He wants to lift our burdens, but we must allow it to happen.  We must show our trust in Him by allowing others to lift the burdens in our lives.

Soul Searching Question: How will you either serve or accept service today?

Service 1

Song:

Set the World on Fire by Britt Nicole

Face to face with the Author:

Gratitude Challenge Day 5: Compliment Genuinely and Generously

A number of years ago I was listening to an audio tape on which the speaker was explaining how the brain cannot tell the difference between negative thoughts directed at someone else and those directed at selves. If this is true about negativity then it is also true about positivity. The more that we think thoughts of appreciation and love the better we will feel. And if thinking them is good, then speaking them out loud is even better. In applying this concept the wonderful thing about a compliment is that it lifts us just as much as it lifts the person receiving it.
Now, I know that this might be hard for some people, especially if they did not grow up with this kind of environment in their home. But just because it is hard does not mean it is not worth doing. We can all learn to do things we have not done before or even how to get over the awkwardness of doing things that make us feel uncomfortable. The more we do it, the more comfortable it will become. This progress can be identified as what I have learned is called the stages of competency.
The first stage in the stages of competency is unconscious incompetency, or not knowing that you cannot do something. Stage two is conscious incompetency, or knowing that you cannot do something. The third stage is conscious competency, or being able to do something if you concentrate very hard. The final stage, or stage of mastery, is called unconscious competency, meaning that you have done something long enough that you are competent without thinking about it. We went through these stages when we learned how to walk and now we walk around as unconscious of the way to do it as we are of how to breathe. Every single time we learn a new thing we go through these same stages. I like the idea of being aware of where I am in the progression with new things I am learning. It helps me remember that I cannot compare my stage 2 to someone else’s stage 4. I am a work in progress with that particular thing, just like they were once a stage 2 as well.
So my challenge for you today is to be consciously competent whether you are comfortable giving compliments or not. Take the time to notice people around you, how they look, what they say, what they do and genuinely compliment them on something positive you notice. They will feel a lift in their day and so will you.
Our Savior has told us that when we do kind things for those around us, it is like we are doing it for Him. So take a moment and be conscious of what you are doing for those around you and treat them the way you would treat Jesus if He were standing in their shoes.
1 Peter 4:
8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
9 Use hospitality one to another without grudging.
Song: Let it Start with Me by No Other Name

Today’s Challenge:

Day 5 Challenge Video by Oléa:

Gratitude Challenge Day 2: Vocalized Appreciation

I believe most of us notice and appreciate the things other people do for us, but sometimes we are not very good at voicing our thankfulness. Some of us did not grow up in families where this was a common practice and either it just doesn’t come to mind or it makes us very uncomfortable to do so. Today’s challenge is about being mindful of these times and pushing past this discomfort. Think of a time you did something for someone else and they did thank you. How did it make you feel? We are divinely wired to have an increase in happiness not only when we are recognized for helping, but also when we recognize sacrifices made on our behalf. It may be uncomfortable at first to do something we are not used to doing, but I promise if you focus on the feeling you have after the voiced appreciation, it will get easier each time you do it. Give it a try today!

As we work on changing the neuropathways of I mind I want to share “The Coin Theory” with you. I was taught this theory a few years ago when I was going through a particularly hard time and the negative in my life was almost crushing. The counselor I was working with at the time shared it with me and I think of it often… If I were to give you a coin and ask you to look at the heads and tails of it at the same time, could you? No. Of course not. You have to choose which side you will focus on. Just because you focus on the heads side of the coin does not make the tails side disappear. It is still there. You are just choosing to dismiss it. The same would go for the other side of a coin. We have the same choice throughout each day of our life. There is both positive and negative that will happen each day. We can choose to focus on the positive or the negative. Just because we choose to focus on the positive does not mean the negative is not there. It simply means we are dismissing it and not giving it power over us.

Colossians 3:

15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.

Song: Thank You for Everything by Jason Gray

Today’s Challenge:

Day 2 Challenge Video by Oléa:

Day 19: Love Much and Do What You Can Do

Luke 7:

36 ¶ And one of the Pharisees desired him that he would eat with him. And he went into the Pharisee’s house, and sat down to meat.
37 And, behold, a woman in the city, which was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at meat in the Pharisee’s house, brought an alabaster box of ointment,
38 And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipe them with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment.
39 Now when the Pharisee which had bidden him saw it, he spake within himself, saying, This man, if he were a prophet, would have known who and what manner of woman this is that toucheth him: for she is a sinner.
40 And Jesus answering said unto him, Simon, I have somewhat to say unto thee. And he saith, Master, say on.
41 There was a certain creditor which had two debtors: the one owed five hundred pence, and the other fifty.
42 And when they had nothing to pay, he frankly forgave them both. Tell me therefore, which of them will love him most?
43 Simon answered and said, I suppose that he, to whom he forgave most. And he said unto him, Thou hast rightly judged.
44 And he turned to the woman, and said unto Simon, Seest thou this woman? I entered into thine house, thou gavest me no water for my feet: but she hath washed my feet with tears, and wiped them with the hairs of her head.
45 Thou gavest me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss my feet.
46 My head with oil thou didst not anoint: but this woman hath anointed my feet with ointment.
47 Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.
48 And he said unto her, Thy sins are forgiven.
49 And they that sat at meat with him began to say within themselves, Who is this that forgiveth sins also?
50 And he said to the woman, Thy faith hath saved thee; go in peace.

This story is precious to me for a many different reasons, I will share three. I am amazed at the courage displayed by this woman to enter a home knowing how she was defined by those in her community because of her past mistakes. But she didn’t care. She cared much more about what Jesus thought of her than what anyone else did. I have carried my own heavy burdens of sin and I remember a particular time thinking, “What if people find out?” A few moments later I was led by the Spirit to a scripture that in essence said, “If you can stand before God at the last day with clean hands and a pure heart, what else matters?” This woman had learned that lesson and her story teaches us the same thing.

It is so obvious that she loved Jesus with her whole heart and truly understood His mission. She had faith in who He was and in what was necessary for Him to do to fulfill His purpose. She did more than just profess her belief vocally, but also acted on it by giving of her substance, love, and humility in a way that could be recognized by the Savior, by everyone else watching, and by those who would read her story for thousands of years.

Another reason why I love this story is how clearly it shows the tenderness of the Savior towards one who is remorseful and repentant. He knew what the other people in the room were thinking of her and He told them to leave her alone. He told them that He was well aware of her sins but that her love had more than made up for them. She was forgiven because she loved much! I see her example and I feel hope. Loving well is something each of us can do. We can love our Savior and care more about what He thinks of us than anyone else. We can show our love for Him by loving others and showing mercy to them. And honestly, I believe that is all God expects of us, to do our best and to love much. Because of this story, that has been my motto for many years now… Love much and do what you can do. I believe there is great mercy in that objective.

Song: Loving My Jesus

Talk:

He Means Me

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/1979/04/he-means-me?lang=eng

Soul Searching Question: What can you do to show your love for the Savior and an understanding of His mission? How can you better show your love for Him?

Day 18: It is Lawful to Do Well

Matthew 12:

10 ¶ And, behold, there was a man which had his hand withered. And they asked him, saying, Is it lawful to heal on the sabbath days? that they might accuse him.
11 And he said unto them, What man shall there be among you, that shall have one sheep, and if it fall into a pit on the sabbath day, will he not lay hold on it, and lift it out?
12 How much then is a man better than a sheep? Wherefore it is lawful to do well on the sabbath days.
13 Then saith he to the man, Stretch forth thine hand. And he stretched it forth; and it was restored whole, like as the other.

Mark 3:

1 And he entered again into the synagogue; and there was a man there which had a withered hand.
2 And they watched him, whether he would heal him on the sabbath day; that they might accuse him.
3 And he saith unto the man which had the withered hand, Stand forth.
4 And he saith unto them, Is it lawful to do good on the sabbath days, or to do evil? to save life, or to kill? But they held their peace.
5 And when he had looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for the hardness of their hearts, he saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine hand. And he stretched it out: and his hand was restored whole as the other.

Luke 6:

6 And it came to pass also on another sabbath, that he entered into the synagogue and taught: and there was a man whose right hand was withered.
7 And the scribes and Pharisees watched him, whether he would heal on the sabbath day; that they might find an accusation against him.
8 But he knew their thoughts, and said to the man which had the withered hand, Rise up, and stand forth in the midst. And he arose and stood forth.
9 Then said Jesus unto them, I will ask you one thing; Is it lawful on the sabbath days to do good, or to do evil? to save life, or to destroy it?
10 And looking round about upon them all, he said unto the man, Stretch forth thy hand. And he did so: and his hand was restored whole as the other.

John 7:

21 Jesus answered and said unto them, I have done one work, and ye all marvel.
22 Moses therefore gave unto you circumcision; (not because it is of Moses, but of the fathers;) and ye on the sabbath day circumcise a man.
23 If a man on the sabbath day receive circumcision, that the law of Moses should not be broken; are ye angry at me, because I have made a man every whit whole on the sabbath day?
24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

There are stories in each of the Gospels of Jesus healing on the Sabbath.  I do not believe this is an insignificant thing. The traditions of their time were so concrete.  Christ bucked the system and this enraged the leaders of the day.  I have always told my kids that anger is a secondary emotion to a bigger underlying emotion.  I believe these men were scared.  They were scared of change.  They were scared of losing their status and their influence over the people.  They were scared to believe that the new teachings might apply to them. This fear paralyzed them.  It kept them from leaving their comfort zone. It kept them from progressing spiritually. It kept them from reaching out to others who needed them.  And clearly it kept them from feeling the Spirit witness of truth. Through His healing power and acts, our Savior was giving people back their lives!  And these men were so caught up in their rules and letter of the law that they had no compassion for the people hurting right in front of them or these miraculous changes that were happening right before their eyes.

Do we allow some of these fears to affect us?  Do we allow ourselves to get so caught up in the traditions of our culture (even within our church) to the point that we are incapable of leaving our boxes, of seeing needs that are outside those perceived lines?  Do we become so ingrained in the culture of our religion that we cannot feel the Spirit calling to us for change or redirection?  Cannot feel the promptings asking us to act in behalf of someone else?

Song:

Love Them Like Jesus

Talk:

Believe, Love, Do

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2018/10/believe-love-do?lang=eng

Soul searching Question: How can you demonstrate that people are more important than traditions or routines today?

Day 17: The First Stone

John 8:

1 Jesus went unto the mount of Olives.
2 And early in the morning he came again into the temple, and all the people came unto him; and he sat down, and taught them.
3 And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,
4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.
5 Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?
6 This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.
7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.
10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

My heart breaks for this poor woman. How humiliating to be drug into a crowd with all of your sins and shortcomings showing. She must have been so ashamed. She must have been terrified knowing the prescribed punishment for her sin. Then to be shown the tender mercy of Christ. The compassion of our champion is something to be rejoiced! Especially because that mercy is not reserved for this woman alone, but is extended to each of us. How relieved she must have been to hear the dull thud of the rocks as they dropped to the ground one by one.

I too have felt the gentle hand of Christ’s kindness rest upon my head when I was completely unworthy of it. He has pulled me up out of the dirt, dusted me off and sent me lovingly on my way. His mercy and compassion are offered freely with only one thing asked in return… that we likewise extend love and compassion to those around us. None of us is without sin. None of us justified in judging another. The rocks we so carelessly toss around we do at our own peril. Our Savior loves us perfectly and expects us to give freely of our love and kindness in return.

Everyone of us is doing the best we can. Every one of us falls short. Every one of us desires understanding and mercy for our mistakes and weaknesses. Can we really offer any less than we desire?

Song:

Compassion

Talk:

Compassion

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2001/04/compassion?lang=eng

Soul Searching Question:

How can you show compassion towards someone today?

Day 16: Jesus Saw Their Faith

Mark 2:

1 And again he entered into Capernaum after some days; and it was noised that he was in the house.
2 And straightway many were gathered together, insomuch that there was no room to receive them, no, not so much as about the door: and he preached the word unto them.
3 And they come unto him, bringing one sick of the palsy, which was borne of four.

4 And when they could not come nigh unto him for the press, they uncovered the roof where he was: and when they had broken it up, they let down the bed wherein the sick of the palsy lay.
5 When Jesus saw their faith, he said unto the sick of the palsy, Son, thy sins be forgiven thee.
6 But there were certain of the scribes sitting there, and reasoning in their hearts,
7 Why doth this man thus speak blasphemies? who can forgive sins but God only?
8 And immediately when Jesus perceived in his spirit that they so reasoned within themselves, he said unto them, Why reason ye these things in your hearts?
9 Whether is it easier to say to the sick of the palsy, Thy sins be forgiven thee; or to say, Arise, and take up thy bed, and walk?
10 But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power on earth to forgive sins, (he saith to the sick of the palsy,)
11 I say unto thee, Arise, and take up thy bed, and go thy way into thine house.
12 And immediately he arose, took up the bed, and went forth before them all; insomuch that they were all amazed, and glorified God, saying, We never saw it on this fashion.

This story of friendship is so beautiful to me!  I love that these friends didn’t just pray for their friend but acted in his behalf.  They carried him to find Jesus.  And when the way got rough, they didn’t turn around and go home, they tore the roof apart to get their friend the help he needed. It was their faith and their actions powered by that faith that got their friend where he needed to be to have his life changed for the better.  I have been blessed with some amazing friends throughout my life.  Friends that have laughed with me, cried with me, stood by me during my darkest times, lifted me with their words, and shown their love through acts of service and sacrifice. I have been blessed with friends that would tear a roof apart for me.  I feel truly humbled by their love and their loyalty!  Their friendship means the world to me!  The way they are makes me want to be a better friend, and not just to them but to everyone.  If you have those kinds of friends be sure to thank God for them.  If you don’t, be that kind of friend to those around you.  You never know what your acts of friendship may mean to someone who needs it.  Your sincere acts of love just might allow a miracle to happen in your own life.

Song: Circle of Friends

Talk:

Friendship: A Gospel Principle
http://www.lds.org/general-conference/1999/04/friendship-a-gospel-principle?lang=eng

Soul Searching Question:

How can you show faith on behalf of your friends? How can you show friendship towards someone in need?